Q&A Do You Have Advice for Safely Reaching Full Disclosure without a Polygraph?

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I am 18 months out from D-Day. I discovered my husband exiting a hotel with another woman very early in the morning that day. He was very nasty to me that morning, and he drove away with the lady leaving in his car and leaving me in the parking lot. Since the D-Day, the information that I have prayerfully received time and time again, is that my husband stayed in the same room with this woman, but that he did not engage physically with her and that he stayed on a couch and she was on the bed. There was admittance to emotional connection though. I do know by use of a private investigator that he had contacted the hotel desk to try to obtain another room unsuccessfully. I have become stuck on this piece, because this is very hard to believe, thus making it very difficult to trust, let go,and heal. As stated in Harboring Hope, I am trying to learn to trust God that I have received truthful information and to trust God with my spouse. While this could be possible, it is just hard to believe. It has been to the point of trying to move out over this piece of information. I fear being lied to about this one piece of information. Do you have any tips of how to deal with this outside of getting a polygraph?



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