Q&A How Can I Believe My Spouse Now?

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Rick, there has been three D-Days since I discovered my husband’s affairs in Sept 2015. He says he understands the importance of full disclosure but I fail to see how he understands if he continues to lie and deceive. He explained that he needed to do it in his own time frame because of his shame and cowardness. How can I believe him now that there isn't more to disclose if each time he would swear up and down that I have the entire truth? AND each time, the whole truth wasn't the case? 

Each time I would ask the "right" question, he would get defensive and eventually more "truth" will come out. I fear that the hurt isn't over and already feel I've been sentenced to a lifetime of pain. We are both turning 31 this year. Together for 15 years total and married for 10. How do I know when it is time to give up? He says he wants our marriage; his words and actions do not support each other. 

I have lost all trust and respect for this person. I'm ashamed that I haven't left. Truth is, I don't know what to do. Any advice?



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