Q&A How Can I Keep Myself Safe in This Situation?

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My husband is a recovering sex addict. Our original D-Day was 8 years ago. I completed HH and indiv therapy. He did 12 steps and individual therapy. About 5 years ago, through a gradual process, all therapy stopped. This was partly to blame on both of us...we both used excuses...new job, stress...we both always had an excuse. Our marriage was slowly crumbling and this past year, we basically just coexisted, often with anger and resentment toward each other. In November of this year, a "slip" occurred. I found out, my husband did not come forth. I am really struggling with flooding this go round. He tells me that a slip was not as bad as a relapse, he only texted, no physical contact. It feels like he wants me to get over it bc it wasn't as bad as the first offenses. We're both back in therapy and he's back in 12 step program, with stated commitment to remain there for the rest of his life. I am terrified as I now realize that therapy can never stop for him. How can I keep myself safe in this situation?



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