Q&A How Do I Deal with the Tension of Seemingly Opposite Suggestions for the Recovery Process?

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On one side there is "winning the battle of the mind", to constantly replace triggers and reminders, by that, which I want to focus on. This has been so helpful, with its help I can "let go" of the past and avoid to continue states of hurt and anger. But on the other hand the suggestion is to walk through the pain - does that mean revisiting the past? And for how long would you suggest to do that, and in which form should I do it, as I will be overcome by hurt and anger and also slip back into depression? You say "non transformed pain will be transmitted". This is true, as at this point, if I go revisiting the events of the betrayals I still feel hurt, anger, sadness and am not able to "let go" (forgive). So how do I transform this hurt??? The only successful way I have found so far is by "winning the battle of the mind" and as I said, replace triggers and reminders with all the positive of the present moment. Can I eventually transform the pain and truly let go, even when facing the specifics of the betrayal, by only doing the practice of "winning the battle of the mind" and by doing the exercises of the EMSO course alongside? Or do I need another practice as well for that to happen?

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