Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them?

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I am unsure what to do at this point in our recovery. We have just finished Week 5 of EMS Online. I have been committed to being open and honest throughout the process, but now I am starting to wonder how wise that is. My unfaithful partner has begun to use my feelings against me in our arguments, and I am not misinterpreting it when I say that he is absolutely trying to hurt me. The arguments are not getting better, because he is unwilling to use the skills we've been learning. I am considering stopping the program, because I am not sure that I can be honest without him weaponizing my feelings, and I am starting to run out of breath from begging him to use the skills we are being taught. For example, I have been honest about how I feel crazy, and how my mental health is suffering. He has angrily called me crazy several times during our arguments, which I feel is an especially cruel thing to say to someone who is on the edge of mental health. Has this come up before with other couples, and how was this handled?



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