My husband had a year long affair and D-Day was in February. We are in the middle of the EMS Online course. I have come to a point where I wonder whether I should continue. My husband is trying and shows some empathy. He however continues to have underlying resentment towards me and blames me for the way I handled the discovery etc. We were doing well in the EMSO but I still don’t feel safe in the relationship and I am so hurt I can now find no grace towards my husband, let alone love. How can I find grace for the person who continues to wound me and seems to only see me through a negative lens? It seems unfair and impossible.