How do You Handle Stonewalling?- The 4 Horsemen Series - Part 1 Samuel continues the long awaited discussion on the four horsemen with a 4 part video series, starting with stonewalling. This is a common issues in many marriages, especially those recovering from infidelity and affairs. Download the Time-Out Protocol Samuel mentions in the video. GOTTMAN, J. M., & SILVER, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York, Three Rivers Press.