Q&A Since I Cheated on Her, Will My Mate Ever See Me as Committed?

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I'm the unfaithful spouse and we've been in recovery for almost 13 months. I've made myself as transparent as can be...she has remote access to my phone and computer, can track where I'm at and what I'm doing at all times, I don't have social media and never say no to her requests. We're both in individual and marriage therapy, gone to ems wknd and make our group calls. Even with all the work we're doing, when she gets triggered she goes straight to fear, convinced I'm involved with the AP. I understand where this fear is coming from, during the affair I lied a million times, gave trickle truth disclosure, and went back to the AP several months after d day. But after over a year from 2nd d day and giving everything I have to my marriage, I'm concerned that she still goes straight to being convinced I'm lying/deceiving her. The triggers are more frequent lately and I feel we aren't making progress like we were. It's difficult for me to not get frustrated and defensive when it feels like we're dealing with this daily, which makes me guilty in her eyes. There's been a lot of progress and I've been very hopeful at times, but over the last month I've felt hopeless. What else can I do to help her differentiate between what's real and what's not and will she ever again see me as her husband who loves and is committed to her?



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