Q&A Is It Alright for Me Not to Confront My Husband about Breaching the Contract?

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My husband and I are halfway through EMS Online. We're separated because he was unwilling to give up the affair partner at discovery and uncertain about pursuing reconciliation with me. After two months of separation, we signed up for EMS Online as a way to help decide if reconciliation is even something we'd like to entertain, especially for my husband who holds a lot of bitterness and resentments from early on in our marriage. I know that despite signing the contract and agreeing to cut contact during the class, my husband and the affair partner have continued to text and call one another. My husband continues to lie and pretend that contact has ended, and I have not revealed that I know the truth - I'm not sure it would change anything except to maybe drive them into deeper secrecy. My husband also continues to use our limited time together to air resentments against me and rehash bitterness, seemingly stuck in victim mode and has yet to take personal responsibility for the affair or the losses we and our children have suffered because of it. Is it alright for me not to confront my husband about breeching the contract? Would it help in any way? Also, how long should I allow for a change of heart? I am committed to seeing the end of EMS Online through, but after that, if my husband isn't ready to come clean about continuing the affair during the course, take responsibility for past actions, and show remorse, what would you suggest I do?

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