Q&A Is It Ever Okay To Express Anger?

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Rick, It's almost a year ago that my husband of 33 years confessed a half-truth of an affair that was over quite a long time ago. In May he came clean with the whole truth: that he had three full-blown affairs in the course of 11 years and one lasted for 3-4 years. He is in a different place than I am since it is all new to me and his last affair was over in 2008. In 2012 my husband began psychotherapy and is well on his way to healing. My problem is my anger. We are in week #7 of the EMSO course and we've studied anger management techniques. But my question is: Isn't anger a legitimate feeling that needs to be expressed as anger? Yes, most of my anger comes from the trauma of the past betrayal and the fear of the future if we stay married. But some of my anger is just anger. Is it ever okay to express anger? If so, please give some advice on how to express it in a healthy manner.



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