Q&A Is It Safe to Believe My Mate?

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My wife cheated on me 6 times during the second half of our marriage. Initially she blamed me and made excuses, now she shows remorse and empathy. I’ve felt that her remorse has been more about to the amount of pain she caused me and less that she feels that she was wrong, even though she knows she was wrong. She told me that she has always cheated on her partners in the past. She doesn’t think sex is a big deal and when cheated, she didn’t care about anything. She says never appreciated me until now. When we talk about if she’ll ever cheat again, she answers with a definitive NO. When I ask why or how she knows she won’t, she said that it is because she never wants to have to deal with me being upset again. That makes me feel like I’m a burden to her. Her actions made me feel this way. She said that she would get over it if I had cheated. Should I be okay with her reason as to why she won’t cheat again? It doesn’t feel like enough to me. I don’t feel safe because it doesn’t seem like she knows why she did it, aside from her “I didn’t care response”. She feels that I’ll never understand, so why bother explaining?



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