Q&A Is It Safe for Us to Move?

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We are 4 months from D-Day. Right before D-Day we were planning to move 2 states away for my husband's new job. I was very excited for this new opportunity. After I found out about my husband's affair, though, the thought of moving scared me and so I decided to stay behind and we've separated until the end of the school year so my girls could finish school. Since then, we've participated in EMSO and my husband is really working to heal the marriage. He is scared of losing his family. Traditionally he withdraws and I will start controlling to fix the marriage. I'm grateful for this separation because it has taught me to let go of control and to focus on my own recovery. However, with our move coming up and the end of our EMSO journey I am scared that my husbands recovery is going to stop. I've told him about my fears and he didn't seem to take it as seriously as I had hoped. It seemed like he brushed it off, I started to flood and then he called me critical (same old, same old). I'm afraid that he was just going through EMSO to get me back and then he'll stop. I have a good job here, no job there. I will be completely reliant on him if we move and I'm afraid I won't have a way out if he refuses to do some personal work. Is it safe for us to move?



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