Hello Samuel
thank you for these.
I had contacted you via Twitter and explained a brief bit of contention I was having after my husband's affair's - and part of the reasons I feel like I an having to do most of the work trying to rebuild the marriage that he devastated, alot of which is that I to still have to ask beg and plead just to be told that I'm loved. he refuses to say the words, and then will say - For instance just last night - he posted a picture of us with no caption to his Instagram page, after not communicating with me all day about the fact that I've been missing verbal and physical affirmations from him - and I had been begging for him to affirm me publicly as one of my love languages, but also just as any loving spouse would do! when I questioned why there was no caption under the picture, he immediately got defensive and he pulled those five words out of the bag : "why can't you be happy with anything I do or give" "you're just not happy with anything" and I said no, I'm not happy with the crumbs that you try to feed me - when on a daily basis I don't even hear the words "I love you" and have to actually fight about it?

When he says "it's never enough for me" I hear that he's really saying that I need to settle for whatever he's willing to give, which you know, if the cheating wasn't enough to show someone how unwanted they are - now I have to beg to be shown that I AM wanted? more than he wanted this betrayal?

I feel this is just heartbreakingly stupid