Q&A Is It Safe for Us to Reconcile?

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I’m wondering if reconciliation will provide healing to the collective parties involved. Do you think space between the families is necessary for the appropriate healing to take place? My husband cheated with his cousins wife. After infidelity they quickly moved away to be with other family. We all agreed this was best way to protect everyone involved. Recently, the other couple has decided to move back to town. In fact ...moving right next door to my in laws and less than a few miles away from us.....where now schools, sports, grocery stores are all shared. We asked nicely for them not to move and requested if they did come to town to at least give our families space. They refused, and now there is lots of enmeshing since our kids and theirs and other cousins are all friends. We are struggling with how to move forward. They believe we should put it behind us and move on as normal. We don't want that.....but they have placed us in a situation that if we choose to keep space...all kids involved are somewhat hurt and made aware that something is wrong.....which we were trying to protect them from. Is reconciliation between two families advisable in a situation where both families have been impacted by infidelity?

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