Q&A Is My Spouse a Good Person in Spite of the Infidelity?

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I am a female betrayed spouse. I look at things more black and white. If my husband had had a one-night stand, I could see not saying he was a bad man. Yes, he did a very bad thing but overall he is not a bad man. But my husband was unfaithful for 8 years. 7 of which he played house with her in another part of the country while I was at home manning the fort. Initially, he was a very good man in almost every way. I don’t see how you can lose your moral compass, which he never, ever thought he’d ever do, and go for 8 years. lying, conniving, deceiving, play acting, etc. and still be called a good man. Sin came into the world and He had to die for it to make it right. Our hearts were desperately wicked to the point that we didn’t even know it. Were we still good people in his eyes. I don’t think so. We were needy people. We were worthy for some reason in His eyes to be rescued. It’s not until we heard the gospel and it changed our life that The Holy Spirit came into us and made us good and right. My husband feels that because he continued to send money, come home a total of 28 times in about 2,555 days that he was committed to our marriage. I can’t wrap my head around that. God says that if we love Him, we will keep His commandments. Love is not talk. Love is the walk. It’s what you do, not what you say that exhibits and proves love. Am I wrong?



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