Q&A Is There Such Thing as A "Fake Recovery"?

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Is there such thing as a "fake recovery”? We have been struggling to recover for some time now. My unfaithful husband just wants to concede to any argument or disagreement (whether he agrees or not), and then consider it resolved. He will say things to remind me that we've already talked about that, or tell me that's not how it was when he was cheating and consider that done. His goal for every discussion is to find closure asap and walk away. His goal for recovery is to figure out how to shut me up, get his free pass, and sweep it under the rug. He doesn't mind living on this foundation of lies, but I do. I want this marriage to be built on truth and honesty, not secrets and deception. I believe we are stuck in recovery because of this impasse. Is it best to just let it go and start anew, even though he has told me, "I will always have a special place in my heart for her because of all the special things we shared."? Can I ever feel that I have fully "recovered," when I don't feel he is totally truthful?



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