Q&A Was I Wrong for Questioning Him or Is There a Better Way I Could’ve Approached This?

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After waking at 1:30am, I went to ask my husband what he was watching on TV and if it was inappropriate. He asked why would I think he was watching something inappropriate and mentioned that he had an issue with the way I was treating him before he could even explain. He seemed offended that I would even ask. We’ve had issues with an affair as well as porn and have been through EMS and Married for Life. I managed the trigger well but I don’t seem to understand why he doesn’t see that he’s watched inappropriate late night TV before so why wouldn’t my mind go back there? Where’s the empathy? He says he feels like I haven’t forgiven him because I still believe he would watch inappropriate TV and not guard his eyes. I feel a bit helpless because I want to be able to confidently ask questions when I'm feeling a certain way and need reassurance and not feel shamed for doing so. I don’t want to be naive either. Was I wrong for questioning him or is there a better way I could’ve approached this?



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