Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Ending the Affair?

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A week after I found out about my husband's affair with his employee, he confessed the full truth to me and committed to total transparency. Even though I wanted them to continue with work and friendship, my husband gradually seemed to lose interest in the affair partner. Contact became limited to work calls or us calling the affair partner together to deal with the fallout of the affair. A few weeks after D-Day, my husband experienced what he calls his Deliverance Day, when he realised he'd been trapped in deception. He decided to end the relationship completely by firing her once he'd found her replacement and sending her a letter explaining why their relationship was wrong. Before he could do that, the affair partner resigned - she couldn't stand the lack of personal contact from my husband and said she was doing what she felt I wanted her to do. She believes that my husband still wants her in his life, but that he's decided to protect her by distancing himself. It's been 3 months since she resigned and there's been no contact between her and either of us. My husband wants to put the record straight and achieve closure for us all, but he can't contact her right now, for fear of reprisals. Once our situation has changed next year, he'd like to write to her to clearly end it, request that she never contacts him again and explain why.



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