Q&A What Is the Best Way for Us to Cope with This Trauma?

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My husband and I dated for 9 years before marrying. We were both unfaithful while we were dating and split up twice. I was with a lot of people while we were apart the second time. I kept all but the one he knew about from him in fear he would get further revenge. He slept with several people to get back at me for the one he knew about. We ended up marrying and 14 months ago, 4 years into our marriage, he found out about my past. He has PTSD and has increased his drinking due to the trauma. He has a lot of triggers so every time we are intimate he wants me to go into detail during our act of intimacy about my acts with other people. It's things I have spent a lot of time forgetting and going into detail every time we are intimate is very uncomfortable. Is this a healthy way to cope? He feels it helps him to get over it. Sort of like exposure therapy. Is there another way that's better and is it beneficial for us to do this?



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