Q&A What Do I Do When I Don't Believe Something That He Consistently Says Is True?

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In my spouse’s timeline, he says that he did not have any problems with pornography, masturbation, lust, or affairs until year seven of our marriage. After reading Chapter 2 of ESMO, I feel like what he is saying is that our marital issues were the cause of all his acting out after year seven. This does make me feel like he is blaming me. He swears that there was nothing before year seven, but I do not believe it. This makes me feel like he is completely ignoring his "personal baggage." While my spouse was acting out, he had his brother as his accountability partner. I believe that that interaction just gave my spouse more ammunition to act out and hurt me. My Spouse has been trickling the truth over multiple years. What do I do when I don't believe something that he consistently says is true but does not make logical sense?



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