How Could You? A Six Part Series on Why We Commit Betrayal with Infidelity
Part 1: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Part 2: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal Part 3: Moral Justifications Part 4: Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Part 5: The Secrecy Factor Part 6: Dehumanization and Blame
Two weeks ago, a woman screamed at her mate, "How could you?" She went on to scream more of the same questions we're probably all pretty familiar...
After the disclosure of an affair or addiction, it's normal to feel like you're drowning in hopelessness, despair and outright chaos. Today Samuel not only provides validation to that trauma but a compelling direction for those who are trying to find a pathway to healing and new life. While providing a picture of courage and tenacity, today's video moves the viewer from drowning in hopelessness to a personal revival of self-worth, self-love and unflinching hope.
If a betrayed partner doesn't experience or see authentic empathy from their unfaithful partner, the recovery efforts of that unfaithful become suspect. "Maybe they are just trying to not lose me and/or the family?" "Maybe they don't want to change and heal, they just want to not talk about it and move on?" Those are just some of the questions the betrayed ask themselves. Today Samuel shares first hand perspective into what are 'empathy builders' and what are 'empathy blockers' in the life of the unfaithful and how to cultivate not only an empathetic heart but an empathetic life as an unfaithful spouse. Filled with insight for both betrayed and unfaithful, today's video is sure to encourage you on your journey towards personal and...
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Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to reestablish trust? Just last week a couple in my office struggled with this reality. Johnathon felt he had displayed amazing progress with his attentiveness and follow through in the marriage. Sue, on the other hand, still saw him as self-centered and felt that he'd made no improvement at all. What makes our points of view differ so radically when it comes to behaviors within the marriage? (Please note: names have been changed to protect identities.)
Couples fight because they are both right. I learned this long ago. No one would argue a topic, knowing they're wrong. Plain and simple, we fight when we believe we're right and the other person is wrong. The problem stems from the fact that we're not always on the same topic. Typically, one party speaks from the perspective of how they...
Betrayed partners are constantly looking for safety from the unfaithful partner. But how do you know they are safe and what are a few signs or markers one can look for to determine if they appear serious about their own recovery work? Today Samuel shares a few examples of safety both from his own story as well as almost two decades worth of experience helping those in crisis. While safety is a necessity in post infidelity recovery work it's not always easy to know who is exhibiting safe behavior and who is exhibiting unsafe behavior. Filled with humor, passion and grit, today's video reveals signs the unfaithful isn't quite serious about repair work.
The hard and sometimes messy choices you made in response to fear or from a place of trauma do not define you, nor make you a bad person. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had.
- Dr. Caroline Leaf
Any ordinary life contains regrets, but betrayal generates a whole new level. I'm sure most of us could...
When a spouse or partner is serious about repairing the damage of their affair or addiction on their loved ones, the simple truth is, you can see it. You can feel it in their voice, you see it in their demeanor and you notice it in their overall approach to recovery work. But what are those indicating signs and where can you find them? Today Samuel shares just a few but palatable signs that the unfaithful is growing, healing and actually doing work to heal the damage their choices have caused in everyone around them. While not an exhaustive list, it's a list from the foxhole of recovery that I'm sure you'll walk away from feeling encouraged, informed and comforted by a fellow survivor of infidelity.
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The last thing any partner needs when trying to heal from infidelity is more wounding. The road to recovery is hard enough without any added complications and land mines to navigate. But how do you tell the difference between what is toxic and what is normal? How do you properly and compassionately understand your partner's response even though it may be harsh? Is it justified or is it just out of entitlement or rage? Today Samuel discusses four of the most prevalent toxic responses on the road to healing for both the unfaithful and betrayed
