Today I want to cover what to do if you or your spouse don’t remember details about the affair and also what to do if they didn’t remember when you asked them on the spot, but later they do remember. Below are two answers we pulled from the Recovery Library. One question was asked by a betrayed spouse, and one by an unfaithful spouse. I hope both perspectives will help you understand more about this common challenge in disclosure.
As you heard in the video above, our EMS Weekend is a safe place for both spouses. Regardless of the collateral damage for either spouse, our intensive carries with it a proven approach to those who are stuck in destructive patterns of addiction or harmful belief systems. You don’t have to keep repeating history and...
Yes? Congratulations!!
Bet you didn’t expect that statement after revealing what felt like your spouse tearing your heart out of your chest and stomping on it, did you?
I remember back to D-Day, the devastation, the uncertainty, and the pain. I remember vomiting until there was nothing left to vomit. I remember the hopelessness. I remember the suicidal thoughts.
I remember the advice and guidance. God told me to forgive. My friends told me to dump the skank and go get laid. My parents told me to protect the children. My pastor told me to pray. My lawyer told me to preserve evidence.
My heart told me to stay. My mind told me to run.
I had no idea what to do or where to go. It was hell for a while. I was making all the decisions based on what others thought I should do. I was making future decisions based on the past or even worse, I was making decisions based on what I thought my new future would be. Believe it or...
Samuel explains the journey of recovery and how it continues to be an unfolding process, not a one time event.
Samuel does a follow up to his first video on his journey to faith, addressing disappointment.
Samuel begins a new mini series entitled blockages to healing where he discusses the various roadblocks common to recovery after infidelity.
John Gray wrote Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in 1992 and subtitled it “A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationship.” The book highlights the differences between the way men and women respond to stress and stressful situations. With more than 50 million copies sold Gray obviously hit on something at the heart of relationship problems:
Men and women think, react and respond differently.
The truth of that fact was front and center for me on D-day and in the months and years since. I would be screaming in anger and pain while my husband would stare at me, mute. Then I would dissolve into a shapeless mass of tears and agony while he again would sit, mute. On other occasions, I would beg and plead for answers while my husband would stare at me like I was an alien, seemingly emotionless. There were times I wanted to shake him into showing me emotion, any emotion. I wanted to see him cry,...
Samuel shares the most important language an unfaithful spouse can speak and the most important language a betrayed spouse looks for.
Samuel shares more about he and Samantha's past and how early on, he was terrified of himself.
Samuel shares insight about a struggle with Samantha on always feeling behind schedule.
Samuel discusses how soon to get to expert help after discovering infidelity in your relationship.
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