Eleven days after D-day and moving in with his Affair Partner my husband returned home so we could see if our marriage was worth saving. For a couple of hours that evening we sat together reading old letters and looking at old pictures. The tough conversations would come later but that night while reminiscing about our past we connected in a way we hadn’t in years.
My husband and I met our sophomore year of high school when I was 15 and he was 16. He was the first boy I ever dated. We went our separate ways and dated other people but after graduation, we reconnected freshman year of college and were engaged. Sure I...
Today I want to cover what to do if you or your spouse don’t remember details about the affair and also what to do if they didn’t remember when you asked them on the spot, but later they do remember. Below are two answers we pulled from the Recovery Library. One question was asked by a betrayed spouse, and one by an unfaithful spouse. I hope both perspectives will help you understand more about this common challenge in disclosure.
Yes? Congratulations!!
Bet you didn’t expect that statement after revealing what felt like your spouse tearing your heart out of your chest and stomping on it, did you?
I remember back to D-Day, the devastation, the uncertainty, and the pain. I remember vomiting until there was nothing left to vomit. I remember the hopelessness. I remember the suicidal thoughts.
I remember the advice and guidance. God told me to forgive. My friends told me to dump the skank and go get laid. My parents told me to protect the children. My pastor told me to pray. My lawyer told me to preserve evidence....
Samuel explains the journey of recovery and how it continues to be an unfolding process, not a one time event.
Samuel does a follow up to his first video on his journey to faith, addressing disappointment.
Samuel begins a new mini series entitled blockages to healing where he discusses the various roadblocks common to recovery after infidelity.
John Gray wrote Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in 1992 and subtitled it “A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationship.” The book highlights the differences between the way men and women respond to stress and stressful situations. With more than 50 million copies sold Gray obviously hit on something at the heart of relationship problems:
Men and women think, react and respond differently.
The truth of that fact was front and center for me on D-day and in the months and years since. I would be screaming in anger and pain while my husband would...
Samuel shares the most important language an unfaithful spouse can speak and the most important language a betrayed spouse looks for.
Samuel shares more about he and Samantha's past and how early on, he was terrified of himself.
Samuel shares insight about a struggle with Samantha on always feeling behind schedule.
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