What Is the Relationship between Remorse and Infidelity?

Samuel, Alumnus
Submitted by Samuel 7 years 2 months

Samuel shares what remorse sounds and looks like for those in crisis.

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
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Submitted by Mkat (not verified) on 7 years 2 months

Do you have any advice for when it comes to finding the right therapist? We've seen a therapist and she was helpful for a while, but I don't feel she has enough specific infidelity recovery experience. Can you recommend and resources, organizations, websites where it might be easier to locate a skilled therapist (in person or virtually)? I'm finding it difficult to find a new therapist with specific infidelity recovery experience.

Submitted by Samuel on 7 years 2 months

hi there.  i feel your pain for sure.  i'm sorry it's so hard to find one that's a great fit.  you may try amanda for phone counseling as she's been through it before and someone i'd consider an expert:  https://www.healingaffairscounseling.com/about/

 

would be a great place to start and if not, i'd look for someone in your are and ask them:

1. how long have they been treating inf, 2. what specific training have they been through 3. what processes they use and 4. how many couples have they worked with that have been through inf. 

Submitted by Mkat (not verified) on 7 years 2 months

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. Your videos have truly been life altering for me. They've made me feel so...not alone? Thank you for what you do.

Submitted by shell0511 on 6 years 2 months

Samuel you mentioned a mentor that took you to the wood shed. As an unfaithful I’d be interested in knowing what was said to maybe help the unfaithful. What was behind the conversation that motivated you to be remorseful

Submitted by Samuel on 6 years 2 months

hey shell0511, it was a combo of things over time, but he was quick to always point out "samuel, who put you here???? who made these choices???? whose fault is this?????  you could have done a million other things than have an affair right?"  he would always lovingly but directly put me on the straight and narrow.  he would hear me, but when i was a baby or when i was callous or when i was just plain wrong, he would tell me i was and help show me that "look, samantha's life has been turned upside down for YOUR actions....not hers, his theirs or whatever, YOURS."  things like that.  

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