Q&A How Do I Handle My Husbands Affairs?

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My husband has had multiple affairs, both physical and emotional. Sadly, he has never disclosed these affairs to me. I have found out small pieces of significant evidence by chance, but they always involve women who work for him. He has been fired from jobs because he has had inappropriate romantic relationships with subordinates. A few months ago, I discovered he had been texting and calling his current secretary non-stop, from early in the morning, until very late at night. He texted her while we were on a family vacation. He texted her while we were out with friends. They exchange pictures in the early morning hours, supposedly of their kids. To make matters even worse, he now works in a different state from where the rest of the family lives, and travels home on weekends. He tells me he has dinners and meetings for his job in the evening, but I just don't believe him. I struggle to find the strength to uproot my kids to move to where he works, just to have him lose another job. He agrees his texting and phone calling was inappropriate and has stopped, but I do not believe him. I am petrified that he will once again lose a job. I have been a stay-at-home mom for many years and am financially dependent upon him Can you address how to deal with office romances - especially when the dynamics of the relationship can put the betrayer's family in financial jeopardy. Is it even possible for a betrayer to end a relationship with an affair partner when she is his secretary and takes care of him every day? Why does my husband continue to act out and risk another job loss? Is it time for me to file for divorce?



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