Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. Question My husband is having a problem with the “affairing-down” concept because he believes that his AP’s husband is a horrible person and that he was in no way a step-down for his AP. While we will never know the truth about their marriage my husband just can’t see himself as a step down from her husband. In turn if he wasn’t a step down then maybe she wasn’t either. This leads him to think that maybe they were different than oth…