Q&A Is It Time to File for an Annulment?

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My husband and I have been a couple since 2000, married 2013. He lost his job in Dec 2015 and I found out he was using drugs since then until July 2016. I found out he had an affair and is pursuing the stripper in June 2016. He underwent outpatient rehab & ended affair in Dec 2016. In March 2017, we reconciled. Things have been great he’s been transparent, traveled to Europe, moved houses, fixed our unit, but in August 2018, he said he loves me but something is missing. He says there’s nothing wrong with me but he is messed up and doesn’t know what will make him happy and wants to re-evaluate priorities and our marriage. He wants a trial separation but hasn’t left, it’s been a month. He plans to see counseling upon trial separation and is only open to marital counseling once he knows what he wants. He says there is nobody else, he’s just messed up with shame, guilt, sense of failure and doesn’t know who he is. He says he has not decided to end marriage but doesn’t know if he can commit as well, he just needs time to fix himself but doesn’t guarantee that we’ll reconcile after separation. I have enrolled in HH and will see counselor and psych next week. How do I act in my home in this situation and is it time to file for an annulment? I can’t help but feel this will all end there anyway.



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