Q&A Is It Possible to Have Closure and, If So, What Does That Look Like?
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Question
I have a question about closure and whether or not it is ever possible if we stay in our marriage. My husband had 2 emotional affairs with 2 different women in 7 months. Both were discovered rather than disclosed and there was significant gas-lighting going on during number 2 before I had the black and white facts he could no longer deny (an email thread.) We are just 3 months post D-Day number 2. When I think about other traumatic life events, there is healing that comes with closure. When I think about leaving my spouse, I see the ability to close this chapter of my life and move on.
When I think about staying, I imagine the constant exposure to the pain and the baggage that is now a part of our 26 year marital and family history. Is it possible to stay and have closure and, if so, what does that look like?
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