Q&A Is this as Good as it Gets in Our Recovery?

We are 900 days out from D-day. We have passed all of the "this should take this long" markers. We did EMSO about 7 months in. It helped us tremendously. My husband dutifully participated in the course and has willingly gone to other seminars and we have read books too. He chose "trickle truth" which extended the pain and the process, but I believe I at least know most of it and certainly "enough". What bothers me most is that he has had NO brokenness, remorse, or what I would call repentance. He can talk about it almost as if it is another person who betrayed me. He has never shed a tear. I have cried me a river. He has been plenty angry - so there is emotion!! but sometimes it seems like he does not believe it was actually him, and I especially perceive that he doesn't believe it was "that BAD". I have tried to purpose my love and forgiveness to be unconditional. I am very grateful that he chose to stay with me and that he has worked hard to rebuild. But there is a closure I just can't get, and a deep seated unrest. Is this as good as it gets?