Q&A How Can I Remain Supportive and Loving While Also Protecting Myself?

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My husband and I have had a great marriage up until D-Day, since then we have taken EMS Online which has helped us become so much closer and to understand one another on a different level. The problem is that after the infidelity was discovered there have been so many other issues come to light causing us to not completely heal. My husband’s infidelity was sexual in nature, no emotional string attached. My husband seems as confused as to why he would have done something so out of character for himself and insists it is like someone else inside him is making the calls. Due to childhood abuse that has just been disclosed I have become concerned that there may be a dissociative personality disorder. He has begun speaking with a doctor who specializes in these issues, but I still fear that things may never change. He says he is not the one making the poor choices, that he wants his marriage to work and loves me more then life. He is taking all of the steps necessary to save our marriage, but still feels he isn't in control of his actions. This is petrifying for both of us! How can I remain supportive and loving while also protect myself? I want my marriage to work, but I can not feel confident that he will remain faithful.



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