Q&A How Do I Navigate Giving My Spouse Time to Show Effort?

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We both completed various therapies and Harboring Hope after our original D-Day. My husband had a relapse in November, which I discovered. In December we got back heavily into our own individual counseling, and he began group therapy heavily again. Throughout the time from November till now, I was constantly told that all contact had ended, he was a better man, working the program, etc. This weekend, I found another email and know now that he still had contact with his AP. I am now currently getting the same song and dance that I received in the previous 3 months, except this time, he's REALLY serious about working his recovery (his words). I am almost positive that there is more information that I don't have and I realize I'll never know the truth about all of his infidelity. I am honestly stuck and prayerfully considering all my options. He is using so many excuses this go round "It's not that bad, I was only texting and emailing her", " I'm diagnosed with low testosterone and that makes me moody"....its a bit ridiculous with all the excuses. I'm at a loss because we have 4 older children and I want to spare them the info about his sex addiction if I can (if there's hope of recovering again). How do I navigate through giving him time to see if there's effort and living a normal life?



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