Q&A I Want him to Want me... Will the Feelings Return?

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Dear Rick, We were high school sweethearts and have been married for 27 years. September 2010, I discovered my husband was having an affair that had been going for a year. I was devastated but chose to stay and try to make it work and in doing this, I changed, I worked on myself. We had some counseling, but that didn't last very long. I forgave him and I thought it was over. August 2014 I found out differently. It had continued off and on the entire time. He would try and break it off only to go back. He was "in love" with her. Over and over I forgave him only to find over and over that he kept going back. April 2015 was the last d-day. He claims it is now really over. We did the bootcamp and are now doing EMS online. We are in week 8. A few days ago he told me that he has no physical desire for me. I have felt this for a long time but now he has confirmed it. We have sex, and that is what it is, it's not intimate at all. I feel used. He is the only person I have been with. I love him, even through all of this. I want him to want me. I have been trying to trust God because I know I can't trust my husband. I am starting to lose hope. I don't want a marriage that is just roommates or just existing. I don't know what to do. Stay and continue the way we are and hope the feelings come? Do we separate and see if that changes anything? I have not given up, but really don't know what to do. Any advice you can give me I would really appreciate. Thank you for your ministry. May God bless you

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