Q&A My Husband Became a Bitter Person, What Should I Do?

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My husband has been defensive for the first 3.5 months, but he was trying to control, and time outs always work. Later on, he became remorseful and cooperative, let me ask questions and talk. We had two peaceful weeks until 3 weeks ago, I found out some lies and things he did that he didn't remember. He was surprised by it and felt horrible about himself. He cried and told me that he couldn't believe he is such a horrible person, I ensured him that his remorse shows that he is kind. But, since then, he became irritable, angry. If I get a trigger and want to talk, as soon as I show a little irritation, he will blow up. I will ask him to calm down, and he yells, "why should I?" Then when he starts to yell, then I will flood too. He will continuously break things, one after another, even I leave the room he still banging things for a while. I've tried to talk to him calmly, apologize, or have time out, none of these works. He is still angry. He refuses to stop the flooding and yelling about how much he hates himself. Even sometimes, I was fine, but he still looks bitter all day. I don't know what to do. The two nice weeks we had was the only time I grieved properly. Now I'm just terrified.



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