Q&A Is This Normal and How Do We Regain Interest and Momentum Again?

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We are almost 10 months from D-Day. We are currently participating in EMSO and things are going relatively well. The first few months were rather chaotic and, at times, even hysterical. We had a lot of explosive arguments but even more sex. Despite the intense emotions at both ends of the spectrum, we were both very determined to get through this and to save our marriage. From about month 8 following D-Day, the arguments (as well as the sex) started to subside drastically, in frequency as well as intensity. We started talking about things other than the affairs and are currently at a point where neither of us feel a great need to ask any affair related questions or even to talk about the affairs at all. Most couples would be envious of our progress. However, with the intense hurt, anger and desire having subsided, so too did my determination to save our marriage. Now that we no longer have something to fight about, I feel as if there is also nothing left that I would like to fight for. My husband hasn't done anything wrong and is still committed to reconciliation but I have, for no particular reason, lost interest.



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