Q&A What Can I Do to Help EMDR Be More Effective for Me?

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I fear that inexperience is hindering my progress in EMDR. The young therapist I have seen for 12 weeks has not been able to help with the constant triggers I experience daily. I am seven months from discovery of my husband’s 7-year sexual affair followed by 19 years of an emotional affair with a co-worker of mine. My husband led me to believe alcohol was his problem but he used it to cover his affair. The last of six D-days was October 14th. I feel that going back to the state of remembering the trauma causing events continually leaves me feeling broken and sad during treatment and no better at the end of the sessions from reliving that pain and sadness which last for days. We talk about what the affair made me believe about myself and then how I want to feel which is the opposite obviously. Nightmares of their having sex made me vomit nightly for over 3 months stopped and stopped after beginning EMDR and I no longer vomit from the intrusive thoughts that caused me to lose almost 35 pounds leaving me in an unhealthy underweight state. My husband, now sober and repentant, is wishing to reconcile after our 5-month separation. Please give me a few examples of what I could be thinking during EMDR to get past triggers and intrusive memories and thoughts.



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