Samuel explains why many betrayed spouses feel stuck later in recovery, even after expert help.
Below you will find a video from one of our mentor couples that is included in our Free 7 Day Bootcamp and the full length version is included with EMS Online for couples. . They share their difficult journey through infidelity including sex addiction and a child born from an affair.
Samuel continues his current series in safety, while addressing un-managed anger in recovery.
In the beginning, my relationship with Stephanie was anything but monotonous. I first saw her on a church retreat she attended with her boyfriend of three years. From the first moment I saw her I knew he wasn't right for her. The fact that he went to bed early Saturday evening, leaving me with the opportunity to impress her with my skills as a singing troubadour, only confirmed my belief. Alas, as the weekend drew to a close I failed to get her number, but not to be discouraged I called her good friend and acquired the necessary information.
It was 8:17PM, only a few hours after I last had seen her when I made my fortuitous call.
"How would you like to get together next weekend?" I asked....
Samuel discusses the struggle for couples to make decisions too early in recovery work.
Samuel shares pivotal insight on handling new information, or attempting to ask questions of your unfaithful spouse.
How does infidelity impact those who get divorced (i.e. divorce recovery) and what are their unique challenges? This week I'd like to focus on the specific barriers the betrayed spouse faces and the baggage they may actually carry into future relationships.
Moving on after divorce, especially when infidelity is involved, is just not easy nor without new hurt.
After 26 years of marriage and three beautiful children, Martha discovered her husband was cheating on her with girls closer to her children's ages than her own. Her first response was to kick him out. There was little or no remorse on his part. He felt she should just get over it. Eventually she invited him back, prematurely she now admits, for...
Samuel discusses drip feeding new information to your mate.
Samuel continues his discussion on how to create safety in recovery and address pride.
When disclosure happens, the life you thought you had seemingly crumbles in your hands. It's like the floor caves underneath you and you're in a free fall. The chaos, the fear and the dread, it can seem as though you're stuck in a vortex of chaos and agony looking for any sort of relief. You feel like you can't tell anyone, and those that you do tell, can't remain objective.
"If it were me, I'd divorce him." they say . . . "I'd be done with her if my wife did that to me" they chant . . .
The fact is, everyone says what they would do if infidelity transpired, until it actually happens to them.
What do you do when it happens to you?...
