In this episode, we address the anxiety of reengaging sexually after an affair and whether it is possible to build a thriving intimate life again. Our expert therapists discuss "rewriting the sexual script," helping couples move past intrusive thoughts and comparison by redefining the true goal of intimacy. Whether you are struggling with "hysterical bonding" or feeling stuck after...
"How do you live with yourself?" he asked, sounding disgusted.
"How do I live with myself?" I responded defensively, never expecting to be asked to defend my own existence as a betrayed spouse. I stumbled through an awkward reply before stopping mid-sentence and asking him to clarify.
He wanted to know how I'd rebuilt my life after being dealt such a painful blow and how I could still be married to the person who caused it.
It got me thinking: How do you reclaim your life, sanity, peace, and purpose after betrayal—yours or your partner's? How do you find a new reason to be together or a...
Even though it was twenty-five years ago when I received my training at the Colorado Institute for Marriage and Family Therapy, I still remember my mentor Dr. Jan Raynak's words: "Rick, couples will make more movement in the holiday season than in all the other months combined." I noticed that he didn't say progress, and I asked for clarification, "Progress or movement?" I asked. "Movement," he replied. The past 25 years have proven him right.
Out of all the days of the year, no day symbolizes "family togetherness" more than Christmas. As a result, no time highlights the distance of a ruptured relationship more than this season. If you and your mate are still close to ground zero...
In this episode, we dive into the muddy waters of faith and infidelity, addressing the profound spiritual crisis that occurs when you feel let down and betrayed by God or burdened by your own unfaithfulness. Our expert therapists share their own struggles with faith amidst an affair, navigating spiritual abuse in ministry, and moving past minimizing religious clichés to find genuine...
Welcome to Affair Recovery's Harboring Hope Monthly Drawing. We want to know you. We want to serve you. This means we want to hear from you!
The first step is telling us what we can do for you. Please tell us why you’d like to take Harboring Hope. If you made a comment prior to a previous registration period, that comment is still good for your entry.
Remember, submit a comment of 500 words or less about why you'd like to take the Harboring Hope course. Remember, it's a random drawing so your entry won't be based on merit or on your situation. Comments will be moderated by AR staff. Drawings will be held monthly. If you'd like more information, you can also read our official rules.
The winner for January 2026 was "...
It's one of the biggest regrets people have in recovery: how they handled telling their kids, family and friends about the affair. Carrying the secret and shame can feel like a toxic weight, but telling the wrong person can create more trauma for all parties involved. In Episode 3, our expert therapists guide you through this complex question: Who should I talk to about the affair? We help you discern...
When infidelity strikes, the question becomes: Can my marriage survive? And if so, how do we save it? In Episode 2, our experts discuss the incredible strength and resilience it takes to fight for a marriage after betrayal. We tackle cultural assumptions like, "once a cheater, always a cheater?" and "If you stay, are you just weak?" Are kids enough of a motivator to stay? Finally, we answer a...
Are you hurting, confused, and angry after infidelity, feeling like your world has flipped upside down? You are not crazy—you may be suffering from betrayal trauma, a very real and excruciating pain. In the very first episode of The Affair Recovery Podcast, our expert therapists help you finally understand what betrayal trauma is and isn't. Hear real stories from listeners asking if recovery is truly...
After the discovery of my wife’s infidelity, I felt shackled by the negative emotion that I carried. And the more I thought about it, the more intense it seemed to get. I’m not naturally one to explode emotionally, but I did one day when my failed attempts to forgive were too much to bear. Let me tell you how a puppy, a therapist, and a really good book helped me find my way to the freedom and peace forgiveness can bring.
