You Can't Cheat the Process When Healing from Infidelity

Samuel, Alumnus
Submitted by Samuel 7 years

Samuel shares insight into what a process looks like when healing from infidelity.

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
-D, Texas
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Submitted by Daniel on 7 years 1 month

Thank you for this latest blog. Samantha and I are closing in on 3 years post d-day and I am grateful for AR. It’s always good to be reminded of the process as it is always a part of our lives. God bless your work and for continually being a light in the darkness.

Submitted by Samuel on 7 years 1 month

people have no idea how these comments encourage me so much and give me so much hope.  just means the world to me my friend.  thank you so much for taking the time to share this with me.  have a wonderful day and keep going brother.  

Submitted by TMR (not verified) on 6 years 3 months

Samuel ... I wish my husband had a friend like you. He needs a Samuel in his life! I think one deep conversation with you and he would be a changed man. This is where we are at right now ... He succeeded on small goals of not contacting AP. He feels so good about it and thinks he can handle things from here ... that general therapy is good enough.

He initially watched your videos and I could see how they affected him ... he promised to keep watching them and felt we should try EMS ... but of course, he backed out of all of that. He is now thinking he's got this. I'm not happy about it. I'm trying to be patient because I know it's all a process ... but that will only last so long. I can't feel fully safe again without his full efforts in recovery. And I can't live the rest of my life not feeling safe. I may love him .. but without hard work, I don't feel loved by him.

Submitted by Samuel on 6 years 3 months

perhaps it's time to tell him that you need these things, want these things and if he's not going to do these things you're not going to open up and be vulnerable with him?  maybe the consequences of them will help him see the need to take your requests more seriously?  these two pieces may help you with verbiage and approach:  https://www.affairrecovery.com/dealing-infidelity-how-get-your-mate-cooperate-without-being-controlling    https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/they-get-say-no-life-going-change

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