Part 1: How to Handle Discovery? Part 2: Advice for the Wayward Spouse Part 3: Guidelines for Discovery Part 4: Goals for the Betrayed
"I've been having an affair with Sandra," he told her.
Shock and disbelief flashed across her face.
"I knew it," she said, "For how long?"
"Six months," he told her. From there the questions began.
How do you navigate the process of discovery after this kind of nuclear bomb is...
A client once shared the following story with me. As always, I've changed some of the details out of respect for the parties involved.
"I watched in horror as the police subdued my partner. It was 2:30 in the morning, and I needed sleep, so I had called 911. I thought the police would simply tell my partner to cool off and give me space. After...
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I didn't know what to do. My wife kept asking for my affair partner's name. Initially I...
Betrayed spouses, why do you really want to know what happened?
Unfaithful spouses, why would you want to tell your spouse about your infidelity?
Is disclosure really that important for healing your marriage after an affair?
Next to putting a stop to the affair or the acting-out behavior, how couples handle discovery may be the most critical factor in recovery and ultimately surviving...
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Several years ago, my daughter had to go it alone. It wasn't infidelity, but it was very scary for her--and her parents--I might add!
My daughter's Algebra class had been left with no adult supervision. Another student decided to take that opportunity to play a form of music that my daughter found to be offensive...
"When you are standing in [a] forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope." ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
Initially, after learning the full truth of my husband's infidelity, everything felt tainted, dark, lifeless, and just meaningless. I saw him as a person who...
How Could You? A Six Part Series on Why We Commit Betrayal with Infidelity
Part 1: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Part 2: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal Part 3: Moral Justifications Part 4: Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Part 5: The Secrecy Factor Part 6: Dehumanization and Blame
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Ever done something you're really ashamed of?
Not just a mistake but...
When it comes to infidelity, the mental gymnastics that must first be employed before the actual betrayal happens is significant.
This week, we'll explore the first of these cognitive distortions: Moral Justification.
One approach to violating one's beliefs of right and...
