Samuel offers perspective into handling and processing fear as an unfaithful or betrayed spouse.
Samuel shares helpful insight for the betrayed spouse on dealing with anger throughout the course of infidelity and disclosure.
Samuel shares insight into why the unfaithful spouse is angry and how to process through it.
Samuel shares insight on one of the key approaches by the betrayed which prevents healing in his third part of the mini series.
Part 1: https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/blockages-healing-part-1 Part 2: https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/blockages-healing-part-2
Sex and intimacy are such big topics and it seems all couples struggle with one or both in some way. Couples that say they don’t struggle in either area are either the rare exception or more likely, they are not giving you the full story.
My wife and I always struggled with sex, me wanting it all the time, her not so much. She has always struggled with enjoying sex. She can never seem to relax enough to get any enjoyment. In fact, our sex struggle was one of the reasons for her affair. She thought that maybe she had just married the wrong guy and that maybe sex with someone else would be better. It wasn't. In fact, she said it was a disaster.
To be truthful I thought that after the affair and our recovery process, my wife was going to turn into the sexual companion I always wanted. That didn't happen either. It was in fact, quite a disappointment at first.
I received some wise words from a trusted counselor...
Samuel continues his mini-series on what mindsets prevent healing in recovery. Part 1: https://www.affairrecovery.com/survivors/samuel/blockages-healing-part-1
Samuel shares factors which prevent the betrayed spouse from trusting again.
Eleven days after D-day and moving in with his Affair Partner my husband returned home so we could see if our marriage was worth saving. For a couple of hours that evening we sat together reading old letters and looking at old pictures. The tough conversations would come later but that night while reminiscing about our past we connected in a way we hadn’t in years.
My husband and I met our sophomore year of high school when I was 15 and he was 16. He was the first boy I ever dated. We went our separate ways and dated other people but after graduation, we reconnected freshman year of college and were engaged. Sure I was only 18 and he 19 but we were meant to be together, or so we thought. Yet six weeks before our wedding he pulled a stunt that forced us to cancel our carefully made plans. Over the next couple of years, the post office was kept busy with our letters and cards going back and forth. But we eventually called it off. I went overseas for a couple of...
Today I want to cover what to do if you or your spouse don’t remember details about the affair and also what to do if they didn’t remember when you asked them on the spot, but later they do remember. Below are two answers we pulled from the Recovery Library. One question was asked by a betrayed spouse, and one by an unfaithful spouse. I hope both perspectives will help you understand more about this common challenge in disclosure.
As you heard in the video above, our EMS Weekend is a safe place for both spouses. Regardless of the collateral damage for either spouse, our intensive carries with it a proven approach to those who are stuck in destructive patterns of addiction or harmful belief systems. You don’t have to keep repeating history and...
Yes? Congratulations!!
Bet you didn’t expect that statement after revealing what felt like your spouse tearing your heart out of your chest and stomping on it, did you?
I remember back to D-Day, the devastation, the uncertainty, and the pain. I remember vomiting until there was nothing left to vomit. I remember the hopelessness. I remember the suicidal thoughts.
I remember the advice and guidance. God told me to forgive. My friends told me to dump the skank and go get laid. My parents told me to protect the children. My pastor told me to pray. My lawyer told me to preserve evidence.
My heart told me to stay. My mind told me to run.
I had no idea what to do or where to go. It was hell for a while. I was making all the decisions based on what others thought I should do. I was making future decisions based on the past or even worse, I was making decisions based on what I thought my new future would be. Believe it or...
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