Affair Recovery

Only a few short days after discovery, I started searching the internet for answers. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking for, I just randomly entered search phrases such as “my husband had an affair” and “how can I survive my husband’s affair”. It still boggles my mind that there are literally millions of internet sites to choose from on the topic!  It’s staggering, shocking even and so incredibly sad to realize that adultery is so prevalent. I was haunted by the weight of the numbers. With so many sites to choose from how would I ever get the answers that I was looking for?

Then...

Samuel continues his insight with thoughts on why betrayed spouses may say, "It's never enough for you".

Samuel continues a discussion today with part 2 of emotional intelligence.

Samuel discusses a time when his mentor confronted him on his pride and justification.

Something occurred at work today that took me back to memories of life just after Dday.  I was a basket case for a while. Even after the worst of it I was still very much buried in the weeds of the jungle that is recovery. It was almost impossible to see anything but the weeds. I started making decisions based on being in the weeds.  Some days I would decide I was done, only to decide shortly thereafter I was ready to fight, then later that day or the next it would hit the fan and I would decide I was again done and around it would again go. Some days I wanted my wife dead other days I wanted to save her. It felt like I was...

Samuel answers a viewer's question on dread and how to fight back when you're living in recovery from an affair.

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosing his infidelity and embracing new patterns in life.

Samuel shares part two of his mini series on grieving through recovery from infidelity and how we get stuck in the process.

This week Samuel starts a mini series on the topic of grieving in recovery.

Samuel shares a poignant vlog on how unfaithful spouses sometimes bully their betrayed spouse.

Samuel gives pointers from his own experiences on what works and what doesn't work when trying to show empathy while recovering from infidelity.

Samuel shares what to look for in both genuine and false empathy.

Samuel shares a recent traumatic experience that uprooted trauma in his own life and how it affected his recovery.

Several times I’ve mentioned in my blog articles that I’m amazed at the positive changes my husband has made since D-day, changes I never thought possible. I’ve made changes as well. Both of our changes have benefited our relationship in constructive ways. But recently he did something that was a huge trigger for me and had me questioning if it was truly possible for him to change so that I could feel completely safe in our marriage.

When my husband was actively sneaking around in his affair he told me that he had made changes to second shift at work and he had to go back and ensure things were running smoothly. Because of the...