Samuel discusses gaslighting and both the betrayed and unfaithful spouse.
As a real estate and small business attorney, I have always been drawn to the processes that emerge during real estate and business deals. Emotions run high at the hope of future opportunity in the early stages. As particulars are investigated, uncertainties become clearer and some risks become calculable. There is always a gap between what is known and what can only be projected. Ultimately, the constraints of resources and time merge to force a decision. It is in that moment that instincts prevail and the process becomes poetic. It is also in that moment that the uneasy feelings of uncertainty rise and the warm sense of hope and safety take a back seat. Much like standing on the edge of a cliff and looking over, the greater the stakes, the greater the "pucker factor." Lately, I find myself in that spot in my marriage.
I am a little over 20 months out from D-day. My wife and I have committed ourselves to tons of work through...
If you find yourself in the first few months of discovery, chances are you are enduring many mornings that you don't see the point of getting out of bed. Your world and life as you knew it are gone. Life can seem empty and cold. Looking back on our first six months after discovery, there were days it seemed like an eternity of pure hell.
Grief doesn't even begin to describe it. Like many of you, we have all endured losses. We've lost parents. We've lost jobs. Some out there have even lost children. While none of us are immune to pain, the pain caused by infidelity is a category of its own.
Today I want to share with you one of the best things that happened to me about three months in. A friend told me three simple words that gave me immense hope.
This friend knew everything I had done to...
Samuel shares a humorous but telling story about his motivation in recovery work.
Part 1: The Fog of Self Desception Part 2: Were They Predisposed to Cheat? Part 3: Justifications of the Unfaithful
Below is a discussion between myself and one of my clients, Amy, explaining her rationale behind her affair:
Amy: When we first met, my affair partner asked if I'd ever considered modeling. I asked him if...
Samuel has a heart to heart with the unfaithful spouse about choosing their partner.
In the Bible, one of the most beloved, well known, and controversial stories is one that Jesus told of the Prodigal son.
Prodigal actually means "wasteful, reckless, irresponsible and selfish." Sounds a lot like me when I was unfaithful.
I didn't want to cheat. I never planned on it. For most of my marriage, I had an inner vow to stay faithful because it was what I had promised to do. I don't think any of us walk down the aisle ever thinking we will become someone who would cheat. Nor do I think anyone on their wedding day can fathom what it...
Samuel shares a few humorous stories about he and Samantha's recovery work after infidelity.
Below is a video of an Affair Recovery mentor couple. They share their journey through recovery from infidelity, EMS Online, and their new marriage. Our hope is that it will give you hope for your future.
Samuel discusses a tool to avoid unnecessary conflict in repair work.
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