Samuel tackles the misconception that since recovery is a noble thing to do, it should be easy.
My daughter and I have been watching a series we found on Netflix named Dexter. Dexter is a blood spatter analyst by day and a serial killer by night. His adopted father was a cop and recognized Dexter’s “dark passenger” at an early age. He taught Dexter how not to get caught and to only kill those who deserve to die. So Dexter is a vigilante who only targets other killers, especially serial killers.
The show puts the viewer into the mind of Dexter by letting us hear his thoughts. The conflict between his “good” and “bad” personalities becomes even more contrasted once Dexter marries a woman with two...
Samuel shares insight regarding his early belief that God was done with him and would never use him again.
Samuel shares practical insight on how to generate momentum and consistency in recovery.
Samuel answers a viewer's question on some of the pitfalls of forgiving your spouse too soon.
Samuel shares the concept of having proper guardrails in recovery after infidelity.
Samuel breaks down a tool in recovery that will help diffuse conflict and restore intimacy much quicker.
Samuel answers the question of the betrayed spouse, 'Am i crazy for being willing to stay and forgive?'.
Samuel shares a hard hitting recovery principle not only for infidelity recovery but general marriage healing as well.
Our emotional diet in recovery speaks volumes. Today Samuel reflects on we are what we feed on.
Today Samuel shares insight on how to stay away from bitterness and how to to avoid the pitfalls of regret.
Samuel shares a humorous but telling story from his childhood which paints a picture of recovery for both spouses who are stuck.
Samuel helps the betrayed spouse deal with regret and fear.
Samuel tackles a difficult but necessary discussion regarding the inability to remember details by the unfaithful spouse.
Today Samuel uses an analogy to discuss how to allow the process of recovery to mold not only yourself but your spouse as well.
Today Samuel discusses how to flow through the endless ups and downs in recovery.
My husband’s affair was disclosed to me on a Friday, and on the following Tuesday, we were tucked into a cozy loveseat in the office of a local therapist recommended by our pastor. I was desperate for someone to tell me we could make it through this wasteland my life had become since the nuclear revelation of D-Day. The counselor asked us in a very soothing and pleasant voice why we were in his office that day. My husband informed him that we were having marital difficulties and then confessed to the therapist that he had been having an affair. This gentleman was a kind-hearted soul...
Today Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.
Samuel answers a viewer's question and helps the unfaithful understand they have power to change their image in the mind of the betrayed.
Samuel answers a viewer's question on how to alter the way they see their spouse early on in recovery.
Today Samuel takes us through a crash course in forgiveness, sharing what it is, what it isn't, and what it actually means to forgive.
The day my husband’s AP showed up at our house and told me that I needed to know “what kind of man I had married” one of my first thoughts was that our marriage was over. How can a marriage survive this type of destruction? I had always said that if my husband cheated I would leave. Some things are simply unforgivable.
After screaming, crying hysterically, and begging for answers my husband moved out of our home and into hers. That was on a Saturday. On Monday I contacted a lawyer about divorce and filled out paperwork to get temporary custody of our 15 year old daughter. A judge granted my request on...
Today Samuel shares key insight and vision into the new life he and Samantha experience but never saw as a possibility early on.
She glared at me in disbelief. “What part of I don’t want you to get me anything for Valentine’s don’t you understand?” she asked. I stood there with flowers and card in hand looking at the ground not sure what to do. I knew she had said do nothing, but after the discovery of my affair three months earlier I couldn’t stand not doing something to let her know I appreciated her staying. If I did nothing I was afraid she’d be hurt and bring up all the things I did for my affair partner on Valentine’s last year and remind me how I did nothing for her. I knew she’d take my doing...
Samuel shares insight into how recovery doesn't gain momentum upon the mountaintops but through the seemingly unremarkable, mundane days spent in the valleys below.
Today Samuel delves into the anger of the unfaithful spouse.
Today Samuel tackles the concern of pushing the unfaithful toward their affair partner.
Today, much to my dismay, I read that timekeepers at the International Earth Rotation and Reference Systems Service will be adding a “leap second” to 2016 (which was already a leap year) on December 31. The article explained that without the addition of an extra second at carefully calculated intervals, atomic clocks become out of sync with solar time. Apparently, this is because the earth’s rotation is not constant, but at times it slows down and speeds up ever so slightly. This may sound like scientific trivia to some people, but to me it feels like adding insult to injury.
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Detoxing in recovery is not always about the unfaithful spouse and their affair partner or habits, but also about uprooting dysfunction.
Samuel shares insight on the belief "What a Betrayed Spouse Tolerates they Reinforce".
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