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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 7 years 1 week ago

Our emotional diet in recovery speaks volumes. Today Samuel reflects on we are what we feed on.

, 7 years 2 weeks ago

Today Samuel shares insight on how to stay away from bitterness and how to to avoid the pitfalls of regret.

, 7 years 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares a humorous but telling story from his childhood which paints a picture of recovery for both spouses who are stuck.

, 7 years 3 weeks ago

Samuel helps the betrayed spouse deal with regret and fear.

, 7 years 3 weeks ago

Samuel tackles a difficult but necessary discussion regarding the inability to remember details by the unfaithful spouse.

, 7 years 4 weeks ago

Today Samuel uses an analogy to discuss how to allow the process of recovery to mold not only yourself but your spouse as well.

, 7 years 4 weeks ago

Today Samuel discusses how to flow through the endless ups and downs in recovery.

, 7 years 1 month ago

My husband’s affair was disclosed to me on a Friday, and on the following Tuesday, we were tucked into a cozy loveseat in the office of a local therapist recommended by our pastor.  I was desperate for someone to tell me we could make it through this wasteland my life had become since the nuclear revelation of D-Day.  The counselor asked us in a very soothing and pleasant voice why we were in his office that day.  My husband informed him that we were having marital difficulties and then confessed to the therapist that he had been having an affair. This gentleman was a kind-hearted soul...

, 7 years 1 month ago

Today Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

, 7 years 1 month ago

Samuel answers a viewer's question and helps the unfaithful understand they have power to change their image in the mind of the betrayed.

, 7 years 1 month ago

Samuel answers a viewer's question on how to alter the way they see their spouse early on in recovery.

, 7 years 1 month ago

Today Samuel takes us through a crash course in forgiveness, sharing what it is, what it isn't, and what it actually means to forgive.

, 7 years 1 month ago

The day my husband’s AP showed up at our house and told me that I needed to know “what kind of man I had married” one of my first thoughts was that our marriage was over. How can a marriage survive this type of destruction? I had always said that if my husband cheated I would leave. Some things are simply unforgivable.

After screaming, crying hysterically, and begging for answers my husband moved out of our home and into hers. That was on a Saturday. On Monday I contacted a lawyer about divorce and filled out paperwork to get temporary custody of our 15 year old daughter. A judge granted my request on...

, 7 years 1 month ago

Today Samuel shares key insight and vision into the new life he and Samantha experience but never saw as a possibility early on.

, 7 years 1 month ago

Samuel shares insight into how recovery doesn't gain momentum upon the mountaintops but through the seemingly unremarkable, mundane days spent in the valleys below.

, 7 years 1 month ago

Today Samuel delves into the anger of the unfaithful spouse.

, 7 years 1 month ago

Today Samuel tackles the concern of pushing the unfaithful toward their affair partner.

, 7 years 2 months ago

Today, much to my dismay, I read that timekeepers at the International Earth Rotation and Reference Systems Service will be adding a “leap second” to 2016 (which was already a leap year) on December 31.  The article explained that without the addition of an extra second at carefully calculated intervals, atomic clocks become out of sync with solar time. Apparently, this is because the earth’s rotation is not constant, but at times it slows down and speeds up ever so slightly.  This may sound like scientific trivia to some people, but to me it feels like adding insult to injury. 

2016...

, 7 years 2 months ago

Detoxing in recovery is not always about the unfaithful spouse and their affair partner or habits, but also about uprooting dysfunction.

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel shares insight on the belief "What a Betrayed Spouse Tolerates they Reinforce".

, 7 years 2 months ago

Only a few short days after discovery, I started searching the internet for answers. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking for, I just randomly entered search phrases such as “my husband had an affair” and “how can I survive my husband’s affair”. It still boggles my mind that there are literally millions of internet sites to choose from on the topic!  It’s staggering, shocking even and so incredibly sad to realize that adultery is so prevalent. I was haunted by the weight of the numbers. With so many sites to choose from how would I ever get the answers that I was looking for?

Then...

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel concludes the "It's never enough for you" series and shares ways to diffuse the frustration surrounding recovery.

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel continues his insight with thoughts on why betrayed spouses may say, "It's never enough for you".

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel shares insight into a phrase couples in recovery use often when they are frustrated: "It's never enough for you."

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel continues a discussion today with part 2 of emotional intelligence.

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel discusses a concept called emotional intelligence both in marriage and in recovery.

, 7 years 2 months ago

Samuel discusses a time when his mentor confronted him on his pride and justification.

, 7 years 3 months ago

Samuel discusses the mental struggles of a spouse in recovery due to infidelity.

, 7 years 3 months ago

Something occurred at work today that took me back to memories of life just after Dday.  I was a basket case for a while. Even after the worst of it I was still very much buried in the weeds of the jungle that is recovery. It was almost impossible to see anything but the weeds. I started making decisions based on being in the weeds.  Some days I would decide I was done, only to decide shortly thereafter I was ready to fight, then later that day or the next it would hit the fan and I would decide I was again done and around it would again go. Some days I wanted my wife dead other days I wanted to save her. It felt like I was...

, 7 years 3 months ago

Samuel discusses concepts and mannerisms you can't take into the next season of recovery for your marriage or personal life.

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