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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 8 years 7 months ago

Often times in recovery, betrayed spouses are frustrated as their unfaithful spouse won't take action. Today, I offer ways to deal with this refusal to get help.

, 8 years 7 months ago

In recovery after an affair, we all hear voices. If you're just listening to your own voice, it may be continuing to blind you.

, 8 years 7 months ago

Leading up to an affair and in recovery afterwards, there is much self deception that takes place. It's the toughest of deceptions and can't be battled alone. Today I look at how to combat self deception and allow yourself to see the truth you didn't allow before.

, 8 years 7 months ago

It's a destructive pattern for either spouse to say how they would describe themselves if they were on the other side of the affair.... Today we'll talk about why.

, 8 years 7 months ago

Have you ever said to yourself, "I thought my marriage was fine....I thought we were doing great."? Infidelity has a way of uprooting our entire life's momentum and today I discuss how to move forward practically.

, 8 years 7 months ago

After discovering my husband's infidelity, sadness and loneliness were safe emotions, but they morphed into something entirely different under the weight of denial.

Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for women dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.

, 8 years 7 months ago

Affairs are about escaping . Today, I discuss the nature of affairs and escapism and how to avoid relapsing.

, 8 years 7 months ago

What about the unfaithful, do they just get away with it all? Today Samuel discusses and confronts the desire for revenge in the heart and mind of the betrayed.

, 8 years 7 months ago

Early on after discovery, Samantha said she hated me. It's a normal emotion of the betrayed but requires the right approach to diffuse the intensity of emotion.

, 8 years 7 months ago

Affair Recovery is now taking community to the next level with adding Private Messaging “PM” functionality. Everything you need to know about private messaging at Affair Recovery is laid out for you below.
 

Sending a message:

1. Click on Private messages in the menu on the left-hand side of the screen from your dashboard.

2. Next click the yellow “write new message” button.

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, 8 years 7 months ago

If you've experienced infidelity on either side, you've most definitely experienced an indescribable amount of sorrow. Today I discuss how to not waste this pain and truly experience healing and restoration in your own life, regardless of what side you're on.

, 8 years 7 months ago

It's a common struggle: understanding why the unfaithful are so angry, when they are the one's who've cheated. Today I discuss some very common reasons why the unfaithful struggles with anger early on in recovery.

, 8 years 7 months ago

After discovering an affair in your marriage, it's difficult for either partner to know where to turn and who to talk to. Today, Steve discusses this challenge and offers tips for both partners to practice when deciding who and when to open up to.

, 8 years 8 months ago

Today Samuel shares a humorous example how we the unfaithful, many times just don't see things the way we should. The unfaithful just can't see how their actions have affected the betrayed and has no clue how to show empathy for what they can't wrap their mind around.

, 8 years 8 months ago

What do you do when one spouse is glad the secret is out and they can finally breathe while the betrayed spouse, however, has just started their recovery and is traumatized. Here are some thoughts on how to navigate a very difficult situation for both spouses.

, 8 years 8 months ago

It's not uncommon to see the betrayed spouse wanting the marriage more than the unfaithful. When this happens, take heart, there is hope and there is a strategy to implement.

, 8 years 8 months ago

When an unfaithful spouse has an affair, they are unhealthy and not seeing or thinking clearly. But is it appropriate to expect an unhealthy person to be making healthy choices? We set ourselves up for failure when we expect an unhealthy person to make healthy, responsible choices.

, 8 years 8 months ago

Are you a betrayed spouse, chasing your spouse into recovery? Today I discuss why that is probably doing a disservice to the recovery process and the ultimate restoration of your marriage.

, 8 years 8 months ago

Often times in recovery, unfaithful spouses will say "my affair is just a symptom of deeper issues." Today I discuss what that statement actually says to the betrayed spouse and how to get to the deeper issues in marriage and recovery.

, 8 years 8 months ago

Marriage is not easy. When you add infidelity to the mix it’s even harder. Then you try to add effective communication and it can feel like a disaster waiting to happen. If you're like me, the art of communication can feel more like a wrecking ball than an art. This wrecking ball is on a mission to destroy everything in sight: relationships, personal growth, or even a joy-filled life.

Early after D-day, there were a ton of unanswered questions and thoughts that would plague my inner world. Time and time again when I would approach my husband to seek information, it was more of a destructive hit to our recovery than a helpful conversation. The wrecking ball would come crashing in through screaming, crying, or straight anger. Clearly NOT helpful.

I started...

, 8 years 8 months ago

I would like to tell you about one of the heated discussions I had with Rick about how things can fall into place into place in recovery, though it often times seems hopeless.

, 8 years 8 months ago

Today I share a recent traumatic event with my daughter that served to remind me of recovery and relapse prevention.

, 8 years 8 months ago

How do you decipher between good and bad advice after discovering infidelity in a marriage? Advice comes from all angles but that doesn't mean it's good. Even good intentioned family members and therapists may not be the best people to listen to in such a difficult time.

, 8 years 9 months ago

Samuel shares a humorous but pointed story of his own journey to humility and self awareness while in recovery from his affair.

, 8 years 9 months ago

A few years into recovery, Samantha and I tapped into another layer of unforgiveness and resentment. It's a common experience that even two or three years out from D Day, a couple may need to still address resentment and unforgiveness. What do you do when you reach that point?

, 8 years 9 months ago

It's s common occurrence that unfaithful spouses can be ambivalent, not sure who to choose. Today, I want to help the unfaithful understand how to move through ambivalence and how to make a choice that will eventually promote healing for all parties involved.

, 8 years 9 months ago

Today I want to discuss a new term called Grief Illiteracy which impacts the unfaithful spouse in ways they're probably unaware of. I also share some of my personal experiences with how to help treat this grief illiteracy.

, 8 years 9 months ago

After the discovery of my spouse's infidelity, I felt like I no longer knew our history. It was important for him and I to develop a shared history so I could know what happened. There were 3 questions that were critical for me to achieve full disclosure. I share these questions along with the help they gave me and my spouse to achieve healing.

, 8 years 9 months ago

After the discovery of infidelity in marriage, it's easy to see how the marriage wasn't protected. Steve discusses 2 ways to protect the marriage after the discovery of infidelity.

, 8 years 9 months ago

Samuel discusses some practical suggestions for helping both spouses cope with reminders and triggers while also pointing out what not to do to make things worse while recovering from an affair.

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