Today Samuel shares in his video, four key components to recovery which are essential to long term healing after an affair.
Samuel continues sharing with his newest vlog on understanding the mindset of an unfaithful spouse who is stuck between their affair partner and their spouse.
Samuel shares a new vlog on understanding the mindset of an unfaithful spouse who is stuck between their affair partner and their spouse.
Today, Samuel shares in his video insights as to why repaired marriages can be so life giving.
Marriage vows. Promises you make at your wedding ceremony as you commit your life to your mate. You can write your own, heartfelt vows or go the traditional route. On a day full of optimism and hope the marriage vows cement two lives into one. My wedding day was years in the making. I was finally marrying the man I had fallen in love with in high school. We had already been through what I considered at that time the worse that life could throw at us. It had taken us eleven years to reach the marriage altar and promise our lives to each other. We were on the home stretch! Yes, my vows had meaning for me,...
Today Samuel poses the question in his video, "Is it worth it to pursue recovery after an affair even if it looks like it's over?"
Samuel discusses the topic of rushing through recovery after an affair and how we may find ourselves missing some important steps.
Samuel discusses a critical mistake many couples make adding to the frustration of recovery and restoration following infidelity.
Samuel shares a jarring story of financial ruin while going through recovery from infidelity and the tools he and Samantha developed.
Samuel discusses in this video why it's a good idea to do recovery work, even if you're unsure about whether you or your spouse wants to save the marriage after affairs and infidelity.
Samuel offers hope in this video from his own story on how to make it through a difficult day in recovery from an affair and infidelity.
One year ago my husband disclosed his sex addiction to me and our lives changed. In the beginning, I would have told you our lives changed in a bad way but now I see it differently. In reality, my husband coming clean about his own addiction has catapulted me into the healing I so desperately had been hoping and praying for.
We have only been married for 8 years but a lot has happened in that period of time. I slowly shut down, knowing there was “something” else going on but not knowing what that “something” was. The more I shut down, the less I was able to...
When my husband’s affairs were discovered just over two years ago I had all the predictable emotions; anger, confusion, agony, and so much more. Eleven days later when we decided to work on our marriage I still had those emotions but now I had fear:
On the one hand, I felt as if it was necessary for me to try and save our marriage for many reasons:
Samuel discusses a difficult and common topic in recovery from infidelity during this video: Why the betrayed ask questions and want details.
In today's video, Samuel discusses resistance to recovery work after an affair and how to address the raw trauma of infidelity.
Samuel continues part 2 of his video series today on bitterness and discusses techniques on diffusing and overcoming it.
Two years since d-day. I can’t believe it! When my husband’s affairs were discovered I didn’t think I would survive that first day. The minutes were agonizing. Time slowed to a crawl. I was reduced to pure, raw emotion. There was no existence without pain. I wished I would die. I knew I would die. My heart was shattered and it would kill me.
Over the next few days I was in a fog. I took one day off work but that was all I could afford. When I wasn’t crying I would sit and stare. I worked by rote. Zombie. Barely functioning. My emotions were all over the place. I was furious, full of hatred,...
Samuel continues his video series today on bitterness and discusses techniques on diffusing and overcoming it.
I did it. Over the past few weeks I have taken the time to go into my prayer closet and grieve. I haven’t done it every day but I have done it at least 8 times over the course of two weeks and each time I leave feeling like a burden has been lifted. I have learned over time that it is true when people say grief is a process. It looks different for everybody. I am also beginning to realize that I have not fully grieved the loss of my mother and other emotional hurts from my past.
However, God has been with me during this entire process. One day on the way to see my...
Samuel continues his discussion on bitterness in today's video sharing what it actually does to you.
Samuel begins a new video series on bitterness and it's effects on recovery from infidelity and affairs.
Samuel shares a recent story where he had to utilize a valuable recovery principle.
Samuel discusses how to restore honor in the marriage seeking restoration following infidelity and affairs in today's video.
Samuel answers questions from betrayed spouses on dealing with their own self pity following the betrayal from infidelity in today's video.
Toward the end of EMS Weekend, we had one group session when they separated us into groups of only women and only men. Leslie was leading our women’s only group and she gave a lot of good advice that I took to heart. One of the things I distinctly remember her saying was,
"Life is going to get in the way. If you need to cancel lunch dates last minute because you are having a bad day, do it.”
I remember thinking, “I won’t have a problem doing this. I don’t have any weekly activities scheduled right now so I...
In today's video, Samuel discusses empathy and it's power in recovery to change the atmosphere of almost any situation following infidelity and affairs in a relationship.
Samuel shares ways to change particular marriage dances in recovery from affairs and infidelity.
I had a rough childhood. I grew up in a broken family and we were always very poor. My mother was married multiple times and had children with all of them. The guys were never good role models. I spent many years living with relatives when my mother could no longer take care of us. There was a time we actually lived in a house with no running water and an outhouse. I remember a day when the only thing we had to eat in the house was a half a jar of peanut butter. Not the best of times for a child.
When I was about 9 I came down with acute appendicitis. I was rushed to the...
Life is funny. I’m not talking about laughing till you cry funny, although there are plenty of times I’ve laughed till my cheeks ached and my belly hurt. I’m talking about ironic, where the heck did that come from, turn your life upside down kind of funny. I’m talking about crazy, way out in left field, life changing kind of funny.
Long before I married my husband, if the subject ever came up I would boldly and firmly declare to whoever was listening that I would never take back a man who...
Today, Samuel continues his video discussion on how to deal with the ambivalent spouse after infidelity.