Samuel shares a common mistake he would often make with Samantha that kept them stuck.
These are words that I have had to unlearn and relearn—words that I thought I knew, but now realize I misunderstood for most of my life. Now, they actually mean something to me.
Growing up, I would attend church with my mom and siblings. I had just enough of a smattering of church "sayings" and knowledge about the Bible to become familiar with them. But honestly, there was far more I did not understand than what I did understand. Most of the time, when I went...
Samuel shares tips on battling depression after disclosure of infidelity or addiction.
Samuel interviews Rob about his life before, during, and after his wife's infidelity.
Before what we in the infidelity community call "D-day," my life was full—full of gratitude, challenges, and mostly good. My life was nowhere near perfect—punctuated with the losses one experiences when we are lucky enough to live long enough. I had lived a largely intact existence blessed with friends, a beautiful place to call home, and good food on my table.
As a function of my positive, benefit-of-the-doubt...
This is a question that almost all of us have asked or heard at some point during recovery from infidelity. It might have been screamed in anger, or muttered in a barely audible cry of exasperation. And it is a question we often hear over and over again, "How could you?" It is a good question, and it lies at the heart and sum of all of the pain created when people like me have affairs. It is as if we look to the heavens and we cry out in our pain, a guttural "why?"
While...
Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.
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Samuel discusses doing hard things in repair work.
To forgive somebody is to say one way or another "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no guarantees that I will be able to forget what you have done, and though we will both carry the scars for life, I refuse to let it stand between us. One day, I...
Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.
Part 1: Reasons 1-10 Part 2: Reasons 11-20 Part 3: Reasons 21-31
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Samuel shares pointed thoughts on rediscovering ourselves after infidelity.
Samuel discusses personal battles we all face in recovery.
Part 1: Reasons 1-10 Part 2: Reasons 11-20
Samuel shares a humorous but life changing principle of communication post infidelity.
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Samuel tackles a touchy subject: helping the unfaithful spouse forgive.
Today I am sharing with you something that someone sent to me after my dad died years ago. I have never forgotten it, and I share it with you today for encouragement wherever you are within the waves and wreckage of infidelity.
(This was originally posted on the website thatericalper.com by someone unnamed)
"My friend just died. I don't know what to do."
A lot of people responded...
Samuel shares a personal story of significant healing.
Part 1: Self Assessment Part 2: 7 Myths Undermining Forgiveness Part 3: Stupid Apologies
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Samuel discusses the need for the unfaithful spouse to have a team around them.
Samuel discusses the journey of the unfaithful spouse and compassion.
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Samuel shares truths he's learned on how he forgave himself and chose to find healing.
Samuel interviews Tullian Tchividjian about his personal journey before, during, and after infidelity.
Samuel shares insight he and Samantha have used to heal both their hearts.
Samuel shares a tool he used and still uses in healing from his own infidelity.
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In 40-plus years of caring for those in crisis from infidelity and addiction, I've come to understand a thing or two about trauma. While there are many situations...
