Why I Want to Participate in the Harboring Hope Class

For the past nine years, I have endured the emotional trauma of living with a spouse who has repeatedly betrayed my trust through infidelity. The effects of this ongoing trauma have been profound—eroding my sense of safety, self-worth, and emotional well-being. Despite my efforts to cope and manage the daily emotional strain, I’ve come to realize that I cannot walk this path toward healing alone. That is why I want to take the Harboring Hope class.

This is not just a class to me—it is a lifeline. A chance to be seen, heard, and supported by other women who intimately understand the depth of betrayal trauma. I know that healing from this kind of wound is complex. It isn’t only about the infidelity; it’s about the repeated gaslighting, the emotional abuse, and the deep loneliness that grows when someone you love becomes emotionally unsafe. My home environment is still steeped in denial and control, and I often feel silenced or dismissed. I need a space that allows me to speak freely and safely, without fear or invalidation.

Harboring Hope is led by two licensed sex therapists and takes place in a small, private setting over Zoom. The structure of this 13-week group provides the consistency and guidance I need right now. What appeals to me most is the focused intention on healing—not just surviving. I am not looking to place blame or wallow in sorrow, but to rebuild my inner strength and regain clarity about who I am beyond this pain. I need tools, support, and insight. I need community. And I need hope.

I believe that participating in this class will help me begin the deeper work of healing from betrayal trauma. I know that healing won’t come overnight, and I know I cannot change others—but I can change how I respond to my pain and how I move forward. I want to reclaim the parts of myself that have been diminished by years of confusion, fear, and emotional neglect. I want to become emotionally grounded again. Most of all, I want to find peace.

Thank you for considering my request to join Harboring Hope. I’m ready to begin this healing journey in the company of others who understand. I am ready to reclaim my voice and restore my heart.

Sincerely,
Debbie W

I don’t “want” to divorce but I just don’t see how it’s possible to stay married. I love my wife but she’s betrayed me over and over. I’m tired of the cycles of betrayal and I’m broken and in need of healing. I need to feel valued and worthy. I’m hoping this course can help me heal.

My d day was 4 month ago i know its very early but it seem like why I can’t get over it feels like enterny.I thought my partner loves me that much that he can’t even think of cheating or acting out as he is more calm and composed and emotionally stable then me . But on d day I found the there is something i asked him and requested him to say the truth , he also thought he is tried of hiding his lies do he rant everything, that time i was just in denial and can’t believe that he was telling about him as he was with me the whole year and was acting out also i was furios nect day after seeing his AP i had a fight with her evrn physical fight i have never seen this side of mine and frim that time i am furious with my partner and even have become physically abusive to him . I am getting panic attacks where i want to hurt him myself things around me and everybody in world. I tried my personal therapist and a marrige counslor also but it felt like nobody was understanding me but the videos of affair recovery gave me a hope yes it is possible . I am feeling like i am the cause of his acting out as the AP and mh partner had thrown this reason on my face. My AP also said that me and my husband were not in love although it seem that she was defending herself but it had stabed and broke my heart in peices that i doubt of my reality of relationship and my worth in relation or as a person. Even worse he had use the reason that there were fighting between us as you were sad and depressed because of your mother demise and he gave this reson to the AP ,to me and even to his family then after some time he came clean with me that he only use this bad marriage bad partner reason to get involved sexually only to the AP this shattered me even more. I really ques reality after all this . Even i was in depression dur to loss of my mother i was bot able to move forward in life i was having guilt trauma of not able to saving her i was feeling alone and in only 2 months of her death i shifted to my partner house permanently adding loss of my parental house and my father also i was all alone in new home new city and i only have him whome i can turat and tell every thing k was feeling and i was doing that only but he used that problem of in into justification of his acting out just after 3 months of my shifting that time I really dint want to continue life or live , and he chose to cheat when i litteraly on the verge of actually leaving him due to my depression this seems like i am not having any worth and he dont love me . I want to do harboring hope as I really think there is no motive of my living And i have no worth , my relationship was a lie , and I can’t be live my life anymore as before after this. I seems like there is no way back or forward from here i will be stuck in this never ending cycle of pain and hurt whole life because of which i was to end my life so that i not able tk feel this heart renching hurt. But if there is hope on other side i wish horboring hope program can take me there

Every day, gets a little better.... then a trigger.. they are unavoidable. They sneak up on you. We are 6 months since our 2nd discovery date - if that's what it is called.... I get confused... husband asked for a divorce out of frustration - went back to his APs house the next night, Then realized THATS NOT WHAT HE WANTED... ??? But SO many lies! So much betrayal. So much lack of value for me, our marriage, our past, present, future... the healing is SO hard... had we NOT gone to Texas in May - I truly don't think we would be where we are.... BUT it need MORE education... I am still lost.....

I’ve been betrayed for much of my 31 year marriage. The most recent disclosure came at a time when I was just starting to believe that I had been betrayed for the last time and we could finally heal. This time feels different for some reason. I worried my heart has been broken so much that I can’t feel anything anymore. I want to spend the time on healing I’ve never allowed myself before.

Since D-Day, my husband and I have worked a lot on healing and restoration (including counselling, the EMS online course, etc...). However, I'm finding I need further help to heal/forgive and I think the Hope for Healing course would help with that!