Detoxing in recovery is not always about the unfaithful spouse and their affair partner or habits, but also about uprooting dysfunction.
Samuel shares insight on the belief "What a Betrayed Spouse Tolerates they Reinforce".
Only a few short days after discovery, I started searching the internet for answers. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking for, I just randomly entered search phrases such as “my husband had an affair” and “how can I survive my husband’s affair”. It still boggles my mind that there are literally millions of internet sites to choose from on the topic! It’s staggering, shocking even and so incredibly sad to realize that adultery is so prevalent. I was haunted by the weight of the numbers. With so many sites to choose from how would I ever get the answers that I was looking for?
Then...
Samuel concludes the "It's never enough for you" series and shares ways to diffuse the frustration surrounding recovery.
Samuel continues his insight with thoughts on why betrayed spouses may say, "It's never enough for you".
Samuel shares insight into a phrase couples in recovery use often when they are frustrated: "It's never enough for you."
Samuel continues a discussion today with part 2 of emotional intelligence.
Samuel discusses a concept called emotional intelligence both in marriage and in recovery.
Samuel discusses a time when his mentor confronted him on his pride and justification.
Samuel discusses the mental struggles of a spouse in recovery due to infidelity.
Something occurred at work today that took me back to memories of life just after Dday. I was a basket case for a while. Even after the worst of it I was still very much buried in the weeds of the jungle that is recovery. It was almost impossible to see anything but the weeds. I started making decisions based on being in the weeds. Some days I would decide I was done, only to decide shortly thereafter I was ready to fight, then later that day or the next it would hit the fan and I would decide I was again done and around it would again go. Some days I wanted my wife dead other days I wanted to save her. It felt like I was...
Samuel discusses concepts and mannerisms you can't take into the next season of recovery for your marriage or personal life.
Samuel answers a viewer's question on dread and how to fight back when you're living in recovery from an affair.
The number one barrier to rebuilding physical intimacy is intrusive thoughts, according to a survey we conducted in January 2011. This video as well as the story that precedes are excerpts from “Week 12: Restoring Intimacy” of our EMS Online course.
One betrayed spouse and EMS Weekend alumna explained her process of ridding herself of intrusive thoughts this way:
"After our period of separation, I remember the process of going back to being physically intimate was complicated and difficult for me. So many conflicting emotions. So many hopes, so many fears. Looking back, it occurs to me that the Keeper of my heart must have poured a double portion of protection over me as I waded into these deep waters. After being wounded my heart was extra sensitive...
When it comes to intimacy, it’s important to address not only physical intimacy but also spiritual and emotional intimacy. Humans are extremely complex and it is miraculous how our body, mind and spirit are intertwined to encompass our whole being. Today, Samuel shares openly about his personal struggles with physical intimacy and introduces Affair Recovery's first ever Sex and Intimacy retreat. Register here dont delay, spots are limited.
Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosing his infidelity and embracing new patterns in life.
This week Samuel shares insight about a concept foreign to many in recovery: delayed anger.
At Affair Recovery we believe healed individuals are vital guides. We aim to provide expert insight from those who have been through infidelity personally, and have lived to tell about it. That’s why along with my Q&A Video I’ve also shared two of our blogger’s videos below. All of us here at Affair Recovery are passionate about helping you find healing. I hope you’ll find solace in this week’s videos.
Samuel shares part two of his mini series on grieving through recovery from infidelity and how we get stuck in the process.
Betrayal is a pain like no other. 10 years ago, I didn't know that there was science behind the physical reality I was feeling each year as I passed the anniversary of beginning Affair Recovery. Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for woman dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.
This week Samuel starts a mini series on the topic of grieving in recovery.
Samuel shares a poignant but delicate topic on how the betrayed spouse can sometimes bully their unfaithful spouse.
Samuel shares a poignant vlog on how unfaithful spouses sometimes bully their betrayed spouse.
Often times I come across articles about infidelity. Recently I found yet ANOTHER article about infidelity among our public figures. I feel bad for the hurt spouse. In the wake of these public betrayals, everybody seems to know what the hurt spouse ought to do or what he/she's going to do, but if you've paid attention, most of the hurt spouses are strangely quiet. I find that's the case for most people after a betrayal. The shock that sets in after a betrayal does that to people, regardless of their income, status or social media prowess. Rollercoasters...
Samuel answers a pivotal question today: When is the best time to work on your marriage?
Samuel gives pointers from his own experiences on what works and what doesn't work when trying to show empathy while recovering from infidelity.
Lynn never planned on being the girl you thought of when you found out about a porn problem, but she is. And surprisingly, she's glad she can be that girl for those who are reeling from the knowledge of their spouse's use of porn. Here's what she would say to you if you just found out. Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for woman dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.
Samuel shares what to look for in both genuine and false empathy.
Samuel shares insight on faulty approaches to recovery from infidelity.
Samuel shares a recent traumatic experience that uprooted trauma in his own life and how it affected his recovery.
