D Day 3/2014. Affair ended 12/2015. We actually separated for about 3 months. We got back together with the plan to reconcile in Feb/2016. Just found out last week my husband had started talking on the phone to the OW again. He says it was just a way for him to get "closure". Said he had feelings for her and it had been harder to let go. He says he loves me and wants to be with me. I don't believe anything he says. I am so incredibly hurt and angry. I'm concodering divorce as the only option. Is this common. Am I foolish to think he would just stop contacting her?

It seems as though every time I am about to through in the towel, quit or give in or up, you throw me a life raft that says no what you are feeling is normal, keep the faith, hang in there it will get better. For the last couple of weeks, I have felt the sting of grief, I call it and it wakes me up and I start the whole mental process over again. You see for me I have yet to have a D-day, everything has been either coincidental or denial. So I know but I don't know or I am not suppose to know. This secret affair has been off and on for almost 7 years and no matter how much or often I confront him, I'm called a liar, or I am imagining things. So I have to go through the recovery process alone. I've endured manipulation, deceit, and re-traumatization and when it's time to grieve the loss the pains go deeper and it takes me while to come out of it. However, the positive side is that when the grieving process stops I feel better, I feel the growth and positive, but it's not long before he has pulled me back into his ol' web of deceit that I feel it again. So again thank you for the life raft.