Today Samuel shares insight from EMS Weekend as well as his own story about great suffering in recovery from infidelity.
Several times I’ve mentioned in my blog articles that I’m amazed at the positive changes my husband has made since D-day, changes I never thought possible. I’ve made changes as well. Both of our changes have benefited our relationship in constructive ways. But recently he did something that was a huge trigger for me and had me questioning if it was truly possible for him to change so that I could feel completely safe in our marriage.
When my husband was actively sneaking around in his affair he told me that he had made changes to second shift at work and he had to go back and ensure things were running smoothly. Because of the...
Today Samuel shares a poignant word picture of what recovery looks like and how healing is found in recovery from infidelity.
Samuel shares both humorous and hard hitting insight into the world of group support.
Today Samuel shares another story of a conversation he had with conference attendees about what it means to actually get back up as a betrayed spouse after infidelity.
Today Samuel shares a story in his video of a recent conversation he had with conference attendees about what it means to actually get back up for the unfaithful spouse after infidelity.
Today Samuel shares thoughts for the unfaithful on facing yourself and pursuing recovery after infidelity.
Today Samuel shares part two of his series on how does the betrayed spouse develop confidence after infidelity.
Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal was born from my personal journals and homework from participating in Affair Recovery courses and private therapy. 10 years ago I couldn't imagine this being an outcome of my pain but now I'm thankful that I'm able to provide hope to others in the darkness.
Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for women dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.
Lately I’ve been pondering something my husband said to me on D-day when I begged him for the reason why. Why? Why did you betray me? His answer at the time was that he missed intimacy. How well I remember my reaction! Intimacy? You miss intimacy so you have sex with an erotic massage therapist and then an affair with someone from Craig’s List? That’s intimacy?
Intimacy has many definitions. Before D-day for me it meant being comfortable, warm and familiar with my husband. I regularly shave the back of his neck. I know his favorite foods, his favorite color, his...
Today Samuel answers one of the most asked questions from betrayed spouses about regaining confidence after infidelity.
Today, Samuel shares in his video insight on the mindsets he had and decisions he made to ensure moral failure in his life, including infidelity in his marriage.
Samuel shares insight in today's video into handling struggles with D-Day anniversaries with remembering the day the affairs came out.
Samuel shares insight on how Samantha healed from feeling constantly compared to the Affair Partner.
Samuel shares an EMS Weekend principle about how to help your betrayed spouse feel safer after infidelity.
Samuel gets personal in this video with his own story of rejection and how to heal from it's impact.
The most significant mistake that churches make in the aftermath of infidelity is taking a cause and effect approach. Infidelity is about a breach of trust and has to be treated as such. While it causes a marital problem, marital problems aren't the cause of infidelity. Two people can be in a miserable marriage, but typically only one has an affair. Certainly there are marital problems, but until the unfaithful spouse repents and turns to God, there is little ground from which to rebuild.
Samuel shares helpful tips in today's video for how to handle disclosure of infidelity. When dealing with the disclosure process, it's vital to use this exercise form the EMS Weekend.
Samuel shares insight in today's video specifically for those who feel like they didn't ask for this trauma but still find themselves in crisis following the discovery of infidelity and affairs.
In my last blog post I wrote about how betrayal has roots that run deep in my family. My parents and their four children have all experienced being either the betrayed or the unfaithful in our marriages. Some have experienced both.
I mentioned that my brother’s wife has betrayed him multiple times. He had a revenge affair after one of these episodes. My brother places part of the blame for his wife’s infidelity on her chaotic and dysfunctional upbringing. But what’s so incredibly sad about my brother is that he also blames himself for his wife’s actions. She wouldn’t have been compelled to stray if only he had been a better...
Below you will find many of the *books and other resources Rick and the other therapists recommend on a regular basis. We recommend leaders read these and also refer them to their groups as additional relevant education.
Samuel shares one of the most valuable principles of recovery for those trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.
Samuel shares insight in today's video on how infidelity can seemingly drowns it's victims.
Samuel shares in this video about how to replace the emotions caught up in infidelity and recovery from affairs.
Today, Samuel gets pointed in his video discussion about whether or not were attached to an outcome in our recovery from infidelity, and when it's good to be attached to an outcome.
I’d like to introduce to you Wayne Baker M.A., LPC, a trauma expert on the Affair Recovery Specialist Panel who often helps facilitate our EMS Weekend intensives. He’s a friend and associate and also provides expert care for couples and spouses who are traumatized, confused, and looking for healing. This week I interview Wayne and get his thoughts on how he helps those who are in crisis deal with the trauma of infidelity as well as the many roadblocks that come before, during, and after the EMS Weekend intensive. I hope you’ll take just a few minutes to watch the interview, while also...
In today's video, Samuel shares his own stories of him changing personally before the overall situation changed between he and Samantha while they were recovering from his infidelity.
Samuel shares in today's video how pain changes us, especially the pain from infidelity.
For a variety of reasons after D-day I became disconnected with my family. In a way it surprises me. After all, I come from a family of betrayers and betrayed. I have three siblings. Two have been both unfaithful and betrayed and one has been betrayed. I have been betrayed. Four for four. Our parents were both unfaithful and betrayed in multiple marriages. That’s six for six.
My husband, unfaithful, has one brother, unfaithful, and one sister, betrayed. That’s nine for nine. I believe his parents were both faithful (his father died before the age of 40 but his mom appears to have had a solid second marriage. But...
